Why do all my relationships seem to go sour in the same way….?
March 14th, 2007 — Rod E. Smith, MSMFT
Unhealthy patterns occur in relationships when a person …
- Does not sufficiently, or successfully, sever and recover from a previous romantic relationship before a new one begins. (Commonly referred to as “rebounding.”)
- Embraces a false, or faulty, definition of love.
- Gives the relationship an inordinate amount of attention. (This is seen when someone seems to disappear – becomes unavailable to other friends – in the wake of a new love interest).
- Offers too much of themselves (sexual favors, money, unlimited time) to someone whom they hardly know.
- Has unrealistic expectations of any relationship and therefore believes relationships offer what relationships simply cannot and do not offer.
- Thinks (believes, hopes) the other person is all they will ever need.
- Confuses nakedness with intimacy, lust with passion, and touch with love.
- Trades long-term commitment (taking things very slowly) for an immediate thrill (“I want it all now!”).
- Sincerely believes their love is powerful enough to change undesired characteristics in another person. (“Once we are married she’ll stop drinking.”)
I know, i know its all very serious but i'm looking at these things with a keen eye at the moment and this list is no frills, to the point and probably accurate in what it is trying to communicate.
3 comments:
what list is this? relationships are far too complex and women even more unbelievably complex so mister rod smith, sorry you have NOT found the holy grail. nice try though.
I'd like to add:
10) Wife does not look like she's 19yo anymore.
It's close to 2am. Read my pathetic post on my blog. What day is it tomorrow? I have lost track.
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